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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I think the preference and the discipline are separate issues. They’re probably not related. Kids go through preference periods even when the parents discipline the same.

Idk what you’re trying now but when my kid was 22m there really wasn’t any “discipline” except redirection and removal from whatever the bad behavior was. If you’re asking your 22 to respect a “stern voice” you may just be expecting too much developmentally, which could lead to frustration for both of you. If a 22 month old is drawing on the table, imo a “stern voice” is not effective. You have to calmly, without betraying that you’re upset about it, redirect (physically) to paper and/or take the crayon away calmly. A “stern voice” in that situation is just attention that reinforces the behavior.

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This is helpful - thank you! I hadn't even realized that... [/quote]

I agree with the pp. We have very similar circumstances to yours and when my son was around that age he went through a stage for what seemed like forever (to me) where he would just look me dead in the eyes and say, "Go away mommy. I want daddy." It hurt like heck because I got him ready every morning, did pick up and drop off for daycare, took him to all his little toddler gym classes, cooked dinner etc, etc. What I always tried to keep in mind was that he only had simple sentences at that point and what he likely meant to communicate was "I haven't seen daddy much today and I miss him." Perhaps your son is asking for the same thing just communicating it differently.

As for the "discipline" situation, that's an ongoing conversation you have with your husband to ensure he backs you in front of your child and has the same general ideas about what's appropriate. It does sound like he's interested in doing that and getting help so maybe a few family therapy sessions to hash it out could work since he seems to want something like that. [/quote]

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