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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think she needs professional caregivers.[/quote]

+1. And a full family discussion regarding the resources that will be needed to accomplish that. It's not fair to burden one child/IL with all the caregiving just because they didn't have children. [/quote]

Sounds like there’s plenty of resources to go around, and it’s not fair to just dump MIL on SIL1 because they can.

If I were SIL1 I, too, would be pissed at the bait and switch.

I’m also annoyed by how much sexism there is baked into the premise that SIL2 should step up - she works full-time and has kids.  In any case it’s not anyone’s true responsibilities outside of FIL, who indeed is absconding on his obligations.[/quote]

OP here -

It's a suggestion my husband has thrown out. I think he feels like SIL2 (and BIL2) should help since they lived the closest and MIL provided full-time care to her kids before they went to school, neither had to go to daycare. There's actually currently *zero* pressure on SIL2 from my FIL or anyone in the family, it hasn't been formally discussed at all.[/quote]

Let me get this straight: your husband doesn't do anything to help, and he's pointing fingers saying someone else should help? Um...

MIL taking care of her grandchildren by SIL2 was her decision, yes? She made that decision while of sound mind and body, yes? That's great. That has ZERO to do with circumstances now. [/quote]

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