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[quote=Anonymous]Via Ancestry, I recently discovered that the man I thought was my bio grandfather is not. Several cousins by different aunts (mom’s sisters) that I thought were full cousins were tested, and the results returned as only my half-first cousins. However, their results are full first cousins. My grandfather is long deceased and so are my grandmother and mother. I feel guilty for being relieved that I'm not biologically related to him because he wasn't a good person (abusive/alcoholic), and from the stories my mom told, he brought a lot of turmoil and generational dysfunction that thankfully bypassed my mother. I did the math, and my grandmother was apparently pregnant with my mom when she married him, so I assume she miscalculated the conception dates. No matter, I'm okay with the discovery, though sad that my mom died not knowing the truth. I am currently searching for my bio grandfather, though he's most likely dead, and relatives.

Is it insensitive to begin referring to the man I thought was my grandfather as something other than my grandfather around my (half) cousins? He died when I was 7, I only vaguely remember him, and I would like to wipe that dysfunction from my genetic resume since it's inaccurate. Again part of me feels guilty because that's the story I know, but the other part is excited about my new truth and want to openly discover it. I've already told my kids and dad.[/quote]

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