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[quote=Anonymous]My father left my mother for another woman in his 50’s. That woman drained his bank accounts dry and now he wants me to help him out financially and move in with me. I spent a lot of time and effort getting him into a Medicaid nursing home when he became unable to care for himself. He constantly tells me he hates it there, feels lonely, hates the food, and is bored. He wants to leave and move in with me. He had a stint at my place already where he treated me like Uber, cook, housekeeper, tech support, financial planner, social coordinator, etc. He never once said thank you. I resented it so much and felt that he treated me that way because he is lazy and I’m a woman. I visit him regularly although not as much as he’d like. I used to visit nearly daily but he is such a downer and ungrateful that I started coming by less. What keeps me from taking him into my house is he got himself into this mess himself—squandering 7 figures nest egg and lonely because he left my mom and no one else wants him around. I work full time, have a husband and kids, and cannot be a nursemaid to an elderly man. He guilts me saying he will die there out of boredom and loneliness. I have a sibling who also doesn’t want him and neither do his own siblings. He burned all his bridges because he treats others like the help.[/quote]

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