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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH has a bad relationship with his parents, to the point that he has stopped being in contact with one of them. Nothing crazy has happened really; I think they just have unrealistic expectations (e.g. even though he is a full fledged adult with a family, [b]they still expect to have a greater say in his life than he tolerates. He also doesn’t want them to interfere with/influence how we raise our kids which they are offended by)[/b]. He generally doesn’t respect their opinions and isn’t afraid to tell them.

I’m afraid that if their relationship doesn’t improve, it may be something he sorely regrets. [b]What if they die and he never made up with them?[/b]

[b]Should I encourage him to find a way to go back to having a normal relationship with them?[/b] I don’t want to interfere with it (and am not in love with his parents either...) but I’m afraid he’s being short sighted.
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I’m glad you’ve decided to step back and let him lead the relationship with his parents. I do point out that the distance from them appears to be rooted in [u]their[/u] desire to control him and the way he lives and parents his children, despite his objections. The answer is for his parents to find a balance with him about how to be connected but not controlling and for him to find a way to resist their attempts without being distancing. None of this is easy to do.
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