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[quote=Anonymous]I have 3 sisters, one full sister (we share the same mom and dad) and then two half sisters from my dad and step mom, who mostly raised us all. I am the oldest at 37, then my full sister is 35, half sisters are 27 and 24. Full sister and I are both married with kids. Younger two have boyfriends.

We all get together once a week and over the past year we have started going out to restaurants more vs. just being at someone’s house. When we go out, my dad and step mom always treat their two kids and their boyfriends, but expect full sister and I to pay for our own families. Half sisters and their boyfriends all work, although they don’t make a ton of money. Once full sister and I graduated from college and started working they really never treated us, so it feels like a complete double standard. My dad is very wealthy so the money is not an issue, I am pretty sure it comes from my step mother calling the shots, since on the rare occasion any of us are just with our dad he always treats.

When we do get together at someone’s house it’s either full sister or I hosting and of course we pay for everything for our parents, half siblings and their boyfriends. The cost has really started adding up and I really don’t understand the dynamic. Why should it not be equal among all of us - like either pay for all or we each pay our own way? I have tried talking to my dad about this and he just says they are young and they aren’t as comfortable spending money to eat out regularly (which is kind of BS since I they go out all the time separately). I have tried to decline restaurant invites but then we get a guilt trip about not wanting to spend time with them and how it hurts their feelings. So it’s a lose lose - either we host everyone and pay for all (which is sometimes more than a restaurant bill for 4), or just suck it up and go out.

Does anyone else have a sibling dynamic where some get treated by the parents and others don’t?

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