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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's 95, so think hard about what senior community is appropriate.  He's not going to be there for decades and his needs will likely increase rapidly. Memory care doesn't sound like a good fit yet, but he also doesn't sound like he can't be fully independent.  It may be tough to find something that fits his needs.

If he was a lawyer, can you use the line "This is associate work, let me do a first pass and I'll report back." Then take the time to walk him through what you did, if he wants to hear it.[/quote]

I just posted, but these are good points. He needs a CCRC where he can easily move along as needs increase. He doesn't need memory care now, but in the next few years he may and you don't want to keep doing major moves. I disagree with the part that it may be hard to find something that meets his needs. There are people in assisted living with very minor needs and the next year they have more needs. The more independent folks in AL tend to hang out with eachother so it doesn't feel like you are among people with greater needs. Before you know it, you need all that AL has to offer.[/quote]

He has money. They can afford care at home. That is usually better than being institutionalized especially during COVID. Op does not need to convince her dad to move into assisted living if he wants to stay home.

Op, you don’t need to knock him over the head with the fact that he is cognitively declining. Our state lawyer recommended we approach it as, Dad, you’re retired and you need a break. Let us help you with some things, mundane  things like getting the bills paid.[/quote]

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