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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL has a very strong personality with poor boundaries. I have held firm but it’s exhausting.

The other issue with her is she’s very “bossy”. As soon as she walks into our house she starts telling everyone what to to do: all day, for her entire stay. She did this to my lovely parents on a recent visit and they were stunned. When we visit her she’s also incredibly bossy to the point that I end up hiding from her or I’ll be told to:

**Water those plants
**Pick up X,y,z at the store  
**Prep this dish for dinner

This goes on all day for the entire visit. She has only a passing interest in our kids so doesn’t really interact with them other than bossing them around.

In the city where she lives she runs a small but successful company and I can only imagine what a nightmare she is to work for. Also, she’s always having people in and out of her house doing stuff for her. It’s like a revolving door of “workers” who she bosses around:

*Clean the koi pond
*Get this at Costco
*Paint that railing etc.

She’s widowed so it makes sense to have some help around the house but this is excessive and it’s never-ending. I know I’m biased but it feels like she has all of these workers around just to boss them around. Her bossiness manifests in other ways too. For ex:

She offered to send our DD to a space camp but DD isn’t interested in space but she loves swimming. My husband suggested MIL send DD to a swim camp close to her house. She said: “space camp or nothing”.

What is this?! Is it being “bossy” or something else? I’m at the point where I’m
basically gray rocking her. This behavior drives my DH crazy but it’s all all he’s ever known. He has had a challenging relationship with her most of his life and he’s planning to say something to her before the next visit but I don’t know that she’ll change her entire personality.

Thoughts?

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