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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are visiting ILs out of state with our three young kids (youngest is 2).

My ILs do NOTHING helpful with the kids. They don’t even sit with them to read a book. It’s as if the kids are there to entertain their grandparents, and otherwise the ILs just want to have adult conversation while the kids “go play alone”.

Because our kids require more care and attention than this (and to their credit they are extremely good at independent play, but have a 1-2 hour limit), I end up dealing with everything kid related and I feel like a freaking nanny while DH and his parents talk politics or theater or something.

On top of this, we are expected to wash our own dishes and strip the bed linens when we leave etc. But this is very hard to do while taking care of three kids AND being an “entertaining” guest who is engaging in adult conversation.

I really hate feeling bratty about the dishes and sheets but seriously? If they so desperately want the kids to play quietly while one of us has adult conversation, they could offer to do some of our basic chores.

Ahhhhhhhhh.[/quote]

So your inlaws are shopping and cooking and cleaning up beforehand and while you’re there, and you’re upset they aren’t also providing free childcare? How long does it take to strip the bed?

This reminds me of SIL and BIL who expect catered meals AND free childcare. DH and I, with kids of our own, just roll our eyes when they complain about MIL and FIL. [/quote]

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