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[quote=Anonymous]My dad has end-stage dementia and is in a specialized care facility to keep him safe, etc.  I have read books, discussed with doctors, etc. how to interact with him and a lot of the suggestions focus on meeting him in his reality.  So, if he's living at Woodstock, we're at Woodstock today.  That's been working.

More recently, though, his delusions have taken the form of paranoia directed at me.  For example, screaming to the staff that his daughter is murdering him, that I'm responsible for him being poisoned with his meds, etc.  The care facility has been kind but not particularly effective - they just call me, tell him it isn't true, and move on while he berates me on the phone, when I visit, etc.  I've tried diverting the conversation (he won't once he gets going), I've tried "sorry you feel that way"/"it must be very hard to feel that way," I've tried using logic (I don't give you meds so I'm not poisoning you), etc.

I'm happy to join him in a lot of realities (and have done so), but I don't much care to join him in the one where I'm murdering him.  Anyone BTDT?  I keep hearing this is common but not finding a lot of good ideas.  [/quote]

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