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[quote=Anonymous]We are traveling to my in-laws over Christmas break for 10 nights. They are generally alone Xmas day even though one of DHs siblings lives minutes away, so we decided to come with the kids for the first time in over ten years. Plus, DH’s job is changing soon and travel over any holiday won’t be possible. SIL and family decided to join in and come for a visit as well so we can all see each other. What would your expectation be regarding who meal plans and cooks? We’ve hosted my in-laws dozens and dozens of times. I handle everything. I don’t bug them about meal choices and I cook and clean up. They are my guests and I try and accommodate them any way I can.

I was expecting that since we are making the long trek there and using vacation to visit them, that I would get to be more “off” for cooking on this trip. I always help prep meals and clean up and take care of the kids for breakfast and lunches when we visit. But, this time I’m getting a constant stream of emails, text and phone calls about how we need to join the meal planning schedule document. I reminded MIL that we aren’t picky and our kids will eat anything and everything. We have zero preferences and I simply don’t care. She is hosting and she is welcome to make the menus and we all pitch in while we are there.

I’m still getting harassed about why I haven’t signed up to meal plan and cook during the visit from her. DH told her that he would happily do so and to send all communications about meal planning and schedules to him. Of course I’m still getting the messages and I’m getting so frustrated. It’s my turn to finally be the guest, she needs to stop bugging me, and it’s so sexist that she isn’t doing this to her own son. Be honest, am I being a selfish jerk here? [/quote]

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