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[quote=Anonymous]First, I apologize in advance for what a trainwreck of a situation you are about to read  My sister is 20. She is in her junior year at a state school about 2 hours from home. The last year, it was revealed she has a coke addiction. She first told me, then I got her to tell my dad and siblings. She lived at my father's house during the summer, which was hard for him and his new wife (nice lady, school counselor, we have known her 8 years). She made things really awkward for my new step mother, bringing men home, sleeping all day and not helping around the house etc until my dad started making rules in the home.

Once it was time to go back to school, my dad got her her own apartment near campus. They were relieved she was leaving. I mentioned that maybe sending her to rehab would be better. She was only attending school part time anyways. During this past semester, she got a job, was fired from it for sleeping, has been claiming to be clean but I later realized she relapsed on the coke. Someone carved coke whore on her car door and smashed the window so my dad had to fix that. She also crashed her car while driving high, which he fixed. She claims to have online sugar daddies who give her money as well.

Her boyfriend seemed alright, but he ended up in jail for possession of an illegal firearm as well as drugs. She says she doesn't have anyone else in her life to rely on and that he is done with the illegal activities. Not that I believe that.

Today she called saying she doesn't want to go to her final this week, saying she wants to come home but doesn't want to live at home. I let her know that I support her dropping out, but she can't just expect to have her own apartment paid for by dad while she sits around doing drugs. She said she doesn't want to work, and doesn't want to live. She has a therapist that she sees multiple times a week. I suggested that she go to the ER and go impatient for a while to calm down so she doesn't relapse again.

While I think she should go to rehab, I think my family doesn't realize rehab won't be the end of these issues. It's almost like a personality issue. She has always been lazy even as a kid, and very spoiled. I love her, and I'm probably the only person emotionally there for her at this point besides her boyfriend (she has said so). But I'm also fed up myself. I finished school even while raising two kids, and I had to pay for it myself. I do understand her addiction, as I have had issues with alcohol myself. I feel sad that my kids can't have an aunt that they can look up to. Give me a reality check regarding how bad this situation is. [/quote]

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