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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. He keeps telling me to outsource various things to friends and family. Yes, people have said they will help. Sure, there are some things I can imagine getting a cousin or friend to help with.
But overall, I feel strongly that invited guests should not be put to work. People spent a lot of time and money to travel for this. They are guests.
And the big ticket items that I'd need help with are either childcare- not going to ask a guest, even a relative, to babysit my kids- or things like meeting the caterer, making sure things

I think I am going to bite the bullet and hire a day of coordinator/extra set of hands.

When I said this he seemed critical of me. "Why would you pay for help when so many people are offering to help you."

1- Because I believe that guests should be treated like guests, not unpaid help.
2- Because someone I hire and pay for, frankly, does what I need to get done, and will handle things I either don't want to or won't have the time to
3- If he said he did not want to co host or coordinate the event, then why is he micromanaging how I choose to execute things?

I'm really frustrated yall. I've spent a lot of money, time, and thought trying to make this a really big gesture for him.
To actually say- I want to be the last person you ask for help, not the only one? What a jerk. [/quote]

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