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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG, I am you, only my brother is in his 30s and parents already did burn through all the assets, and now constantly asking me for money. Also, my brother is not very pleasant to be around, and sometimes borderline sociopath. We barely communicate. He worked part-time during freshman year in college, before he dropped out. That’s it. That was the first and the last year he filed taxes.  I try not to think about what’s waiting for me in the future, when I have to arrange their care and deal with my brother directly.

Don’t have any advice for you, but want to give you a hug. You are not alone.[/quote]

I hope you're not giving your parents money when they ask? They made their choices, they can't make you and you should not feel obligated to fund them (or your brother) when they could have done things very differently. I'm not suggesting you abandon them or not care what happens to them, but you also in no way should run yourself or your family's finances into the ground supporting them after they made such terrible choices.[/quote]

I am the PP and yes, sadly, I do give them money when I can.  Every time I do it, I feel like such a looser, but when I say "no" I feel guilty and bad.  I am trying to figure out a system, with certain amount of allowance they get.  Thank you for the words of encouragement.  It's just so hard when it is tied up to all the emotional baggage from the childhood. [/quote]

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