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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]   Every year my birthday wish is that she forget it and leave me alone. I see a card, text or email arrive and I think....oh here it comes. Sometimes I save it for when I am having a glass of wine with my husband or talking with a friend who gets it so we can laugh. Here's some of mom's greatest hits...

*Send a card with a check and tell me why I don't deserve the check (does one still send a thank you note for that?) I do. I take the highroad, though sometimes I think it's funny to include "thanks for the charming note too" giggles..)

*Send a card telling me she almost forgot my birthday because I don't visit/call/text enough and she barely remembers who I am at t
his point.

*Send a text a few days late to say she isn't going senile. She did remember my birthday, but she debated whether she should acknowledge it because of all the reasons I am a bad girl.

*send a long email detailing why I am a disappointment.

*Occasionally I get a card with just well wishes and that actually Fs with me because I think,hmmmm is she finally getting help? Is the verbal knife coming via text? Is she being sarcastic? Is it opposite day? Is it really her or is someone playing me? Did she have a stroke? Is she drunk?[/quote]

How to respond to all four scenarios:
If you receive a check you "don't deserve" tear it up. If she inquires why it was never cashed tell her you're unable in good conscience to accept something you really don't deserve. Then end the conversation.

This also applies to the other examples. Let her know nothing is going to change. Does she think you're a child who's going to care about all these criticisms?

Do not contact her or respond to emails etc. If she persists just say you don't want to make a liar out of her by behaving in any other way.[/quote]

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