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[quote=Anonymous]I understand it.  I don’t answer calls or texts from mine on my birthday.  If they ask to visit I now say no.  It’s terrible and I can handle it but my children don’t need to hear the jabs and see the poor behavior.

I think my mother has deep rooted anxiety and issues that she never addressed.  She always longed for this perfect family and ours was pretty good, but she focuses on others and what we are not.  Any holiday can be rough and comes with a lecture or passive aggressive behavior.  Or straight up aggressive behavior.  Now that she’s in her 70s she really has no filter.

The worst was a few years ago when she came for a visit on my birthday and during cake in front of the kids started saying how I hate my birthday but need to appreciate her because her mother was dead at my age and who knows how long she will be alive.  I had to calmly tell her that this was a party with the kids, I don’t hate my birthday and the only one being negative was her.  She hasn’t been over for another birthday since.  [/quote]

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