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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about you take your MIL with you. How about DH takes his Father along with him.[/quote]

OP here. “Take them along” where? They don’t want to go on a walk around the nearby lake that has a few playgrounds around it (totally flat and smooth surface, and they have no mobility issues). They don’t want to go see a family movie together. They don’t want to drive through the light show. They don’t want to go to a museum or aquarium. They don’t even want to go out to lunch. If I suggested to MIL she “come along” with me to the grocery store or to get a pedicure, she would not want to go. If DH suggested that FIL “come along” with him to Lowe’s or to rake leaves, he wouldn’t want to.

“But we came here to see YOU” is the constant refrain. If we let the kids go out and ride bikes, that’s frowned upon because “we came here to see YOU.”[/quote]

DH needs to be frank with his parents that the kids can't be expected to sit inside the house all day. "Mom and Dad, the kids need to get outside.  Jennie is taking them to the park. Do you want to come, or do you want to stay here?" (parents complain about wanting to stay and visit) "Ok, you're staying. You'll get to visit more when they get back."

You both need to get comfortable just going about your business and glossing over the protests and disappointment. The activities you are describing are not bad, and you are not being rude. In fact, it's typically considered polite for houseguests to make themselves scare for at least part of the visit so the hosts can have some downtime. 
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