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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was in a similar situation and just waited a year for the more advanced one. I can’t imagine doing this to twins. That twin will be branded “the dumb one” for life and constantly have it pointed out. I absolutely understand they are individuals but I think the harm to the one held back is too great. [/quote]

I think that is rally unfair to the more advanced twin.

My brother's family did this with his kids who are two years apart. Both August birthdays. They redshirted the oldest because he was a bit behind, then redshirted the very advanced younger son because they didn't want to hurt the older one's feelings. Now the younger one is getting straight As with no effort, is bored, and complains the boys in his class are too rowdy.[/quote]
Do you have twins or any understanding of it?
That situation isn’t even comparable. [/quote]

Holding the girl back to benefit the boy is saying the boy is more important than the girl. [/quote]
No. It’s far more complicated than that. 
Yes they are separate but the damage to the boy’s self esteem will far outweigh the benefit of starting the girl earlier. She is an August birthday so she’s not going to be a year older. She will be slightly older than her classmates (that is my twins exact situation) but not a year older as a previous poster said. Also she will more likely be in good company in this area as many kids wait if on the fence (unlike when I was in school). It will be far easier to challenge the daughter a little bit than to fix the damage it will cause the boy. 
In my twins group the only way this worked was when one had a physical disability. The one that comes to mind one of the twins went to a special needs school and that worked out fine for her a year behind. Her disability was significant. 
Please start piling away money for therapy if you choose to do this. [/quote]

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