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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you need to give it more time.  Right now you know that he hates parenting an infant.  Okay.  Many people feel this way.  How is he going to be with a 6 yo?  Will he be spending hours in the backyard kicking soccer goals with them and coach their team?  Will he be more interested in a kid?  I think you don't know yet.

I'm not saying that you don't deserve to leave.  He's being a royal jerk.  But also think about what you are getting from the relationship currently and what else you could get him to contribute.  Presumably he's helping pay living expenses and a rent/mortgage.  He's also willing to take the baby for a whole day or parts of a day so you can have a break.  What about chores?  Does he pay bills, do the yard, wash dishes, give the baby a bath, etc?  All of that would fall on you if you left.  Don't take what he's providing for granted.  You can always leave when the baby is bigger and is less needy.  Hold tight and see how things go.

In the meantime think about starting to build a life for you and the baby.  If you were single with a baby all weekend, what would you do?  My guess is you'd make other friends with babies and start to form a network.  Do that now.  And if they have spouses he can meet to help build him a new friend circle, all the better.[/quote]

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