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[quote=Anonymous]OP, first, it sounds like after so many years of this you want to be mad at what you know will happen. Second, my coming response is predicated on you not being someone who spends money too easily. If you throw money at problems, then you need to look in the mirror at that. However, if you are good with a budget and don't easily spend money mindlessly, then right here: "Me: Hey, so we still didn't get the grout fixed, you mentioned you were going to take care of it. Him: (Almost instantly defensive and mad) Well, I've been pretty busy, why don't you take care of it?" Don't say anything other than, Great, I'll take care of it. Then walk away. Do no engage further. Establish a new pattern. He is defensive and feels guilty so blames you. That is not justification, but a pattern you need to break. Frankly, I wouldn't even ask him in the first place. Grout needs fixed. Find a reasonable person to do it. Then just get it done. [/quote]
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