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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After losing nearly 80 lbs to cancer, I kept some of my too big clothes, but after six months, I did reluctantly donate most of my plus-sized wardrobe because they hung horribly on my now S frame. I looked ridiculous in them. A belt can only do so much because the fabric bunches at the crotch. I kept a few sentimental items. [/quote]

I wish the cousins could have just let the father keep more of the old clothes in the closet, just to look at. They’re very anti stuff. In a way, that’s good, I guess, but it seems mean to impose that way of thinking on people who aren’t in any danger of hoarding. [/quote]

I can see myself being guilty of this.  He doesn’t need the bigger clothes and never will again.  I am not sentimentally to clothes (woman here) so I would want to help by clearing out his house of junk.  Why make him see clothes that he shouldn’t wear every day?  Pants that are falling off him may make him a fall risk, too.  If he goes to the hospital, nursing home, or does, there will be a lot of “stuff” to take care of, so it’s logical to try to take care of some of those logistics now.  It’s coldly rational maybe, and substituting the judgment of the caregiver for the patient, but it’s probably done with love and a touch of exhaustion/burnout.  [/quote]

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