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[quote=Anonymous]Me, my parents, and family have gone to my in-laws thanksgiving gathering since 2009, and we generally enjoy getting together with close family. My in-laws have a large, blended family (5 adult sons) and we do generally get along with them.

This year they invited a cousin of my DH to this gathering. We really don’t have any relationship with this cousin (last time I saw him I had just met my DH, and said cousin was a tween). This cousin does not like DH based on a legal situation that DH was involved in 10 years ago, as well as some unfounded accusations said cousin/his sister have levied against DH. This dislike has spilled over into our personal life, as my DH was fired by his employer (a local school district) based on a report this cousin made to their HR department.

DH has worked really hard over the past ten years to put all of the legal issues behind him. He is a better man, and is a great dad and husband. It was a punch to the gut when this cousin walked into our in-laws’ home, and I brought this up to my in-laws and told them specifically that if if this cousin was ever invited to another family function to tell us so we could make other plans, to which they told me they would try, but that I should expect this cousin to be generally invited to future family functions as he has an open invitation to stay with them whenever. They also made it clear he would be at our Christmas gathering, so we should keep that in mind.

I don’t want to go overboard, but my in-laws know very well that this cousin has been not just unpleasant towards DH, but has levied unfounded accusations towards him. They also know that my boys (age 6 and 9) would be present, and I am trying to minimize their knowledge of DH’s past legal issues. And DH thinks I went too far, and believes it was a good chance to build a relationship with this cousin. Am I completely out of line?[/quote]

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