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[quote=Anonymous]I'm pretty sure you aren't venting but just passive aggressively hoping the nanny sees this, recognizes it's you (because you've provided an alarming amount of detail) and cuts it out.

But since you did post it here, my opinion:

1) You obviously are not actually cool with the nanny share. You should not have agreed to it if you were going to be so resentful. You say you applaud the nanny's business approach, but then whine extensively about how you don't get any benefit and they aren't paying for sick leave or holidays or taxes. They don't need to -- she only has their kid 1 or 2 days a week and no one pays a babysitter taxes/sick leave/holidays for one day a week! Again, you're being so passive aggressive here. Either agree to the arrangement and be okay with it, or say no. Don't agree to it and then complain about how the other family isn't paying for stuff that no one every asked or expected them to pay for.

2) Who cares if they gave her a bonus? Seriously, who cares? That's their business. So your nanny mentioned it on the group text. Again, who cares? It's not like she asked you for a bonus. It really sounds like you are mostly annoyed that she seems to have revealed to the other family that you didn't give her one. WHO CARES? This is a business arrangement. Stop being all up in your feelings about it. I assume you give her a year end bonus. This other family is only engaging her for a short period of time until their kid is in full time daycare and probably is extra grateful for this arrangement while they are in a childcare crunch. Maybe your nanny is trying to shake you down, but like you, she's being passive aggressive about it, so you can ignore it and move on with your life.

3) If you want to fire your nanny for "being tacky" or tell her you've "lost respect" (lol) for her, go for it. But I'm losing respect for you reading this thing. You sound incredibly whiny and insecure. This is not a real problem.

4) The issue of her missing days is totally separate and perhaps your real issue? The sick leave is what it is -- everyone is sick right now. I too have taken several sick days in the last couple months due to stupid viruses. And planned vacation? You're complaining about feeling "unappreciated" because you allowed your full time employee to take a vacation that she requested off in advance and used vacation leave she is entitled to in her negotiated contract? Lady, please.

You do not sound like you have what it takes to have a household employee and should have just put your kid in daycare. Get your head out of your a$$ and stop making all this random crap about your feelings, which are irrelevant. Maybe the other family gave her a Thanksgiving bonus because they feel bad of rher that she has such a bad employer?[/quote]

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