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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your FIL is probably neurodivergent - the obesity is a consequence of his rigidity. Let him be. And it's perfectly fine not to bond with certain people, OP. Don't force yourself to invite them or visit them just because they're your husband's parents. I bond with my MIL, but not my late FIL, who had bipolar disorder.[/quote] Possibly? They like to come stay with us every 6 ish weeks, and have us come to various family events regularly - so the option of not socializing is not on the table or mil gets very upset [/quote] PP you replied to. First lesson of the reformed people-pleaser: understand that living your life means displeasing some people. It's fine if your MIL gets very upset. Let her. She needs the socialization, with a husband like that, but you are not her and should not bear her burden. So start by refusing half the invites, and tell her not to come so often. You need to set boundaries.[/quote]
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