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[quote=Anonymous]I work in healthcare as a primary provider. I have really close relationships with most of my patients. I generally see 15-30 patients per day. 
I have become estranged from my mother- mostly due to her extreme cruel judgement, critiquing, and total inability to be supportive at all (unless it’s writing a check- but at some point, that became not worth the guilt.) I have moved away from DC into a very popular area to move to. I have tons of patients that come in and as we get to know each other, just gush over their family, one member moved here, they couldn’t stay away from their grandchildren, they missed their daughter so much they moved here, etc. I have this conversation usually 2-4 times per day. Obviously I keep it completely professional but on the inside I’m just sooooo sad. It really takes its toll on me. 
Has anyone had any success dealing with this? I’ve done therapy but I really didn’t feel like it helped with this. I know I’m uniquely situated in the having to reopen this wound what seems like a million times a week. Generally my patients will then reflect to me, or make comments like, “I know your parents feel the same way about your kids!” Actually, no, my mom told me she’s disappointed in the way she raised me on my wedding night and has told me she doesn’t really want to help with my kids ever, she has other things to do. 
Of course, I’ve had the thanksgiving conversation every single patient this week and everyone can’t wait to tell me about their big get together. 
Sigh. Help me stop wallowing. [/quote]

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