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[quote=Anonymous]Before moving her, I would sit down and assess what it is you want/need, and then start doing it.  Take a class if you want.  Set up a weekly book club or outing with friends.  Get involved volunteering with something you love.  You need to create a life for yourself outside of her and then just insist on it.  
Tell your sibling “I am gone Tuesday afternoons for my volunteer docent job.  Please FaceTime with mom on your lunch break on Tuesdays.”  Figure out what your mom can do for herself.  My grandmother lived with us when I grew up, and she did the dusting, cooked, and did her own laundry well into her 90s.  My mom loves on her own now, in her 90s, and does all this stuff too.  You need to tell your mom she needs to do more for herself — she can but may feel she doesn’t want to overstep as it’s your house.  And get your mom set up with stuff she can do — letter writing to friends?  (Elderly people love to get mail, and she probably has friends in assisted living now who would love a letter.). Baking for donation to the church food pantry?  Reading books?  Watching reality TV or game shows?  Knitting?  Baking cookies to send to the college kids every week?  She has just moved and needs to find her new routine of stuff to do.  She’s probably anxious because she just uprooted her whole life and doesn’t know where she fits in this new one.  Help her find a new routine of stuff she can do.
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