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[quote=Anonymous]My daughter has ADHD and high-functioning ASD. She is now 18 years old and a senior in high school. She is an amazing kid with so much going for her, and I think she is going to find her way as an adult, although things are coming along much slower than others her age.  She still needs some help with making herself look presentable, hopefully that doesn't sound too negative. She is impulsive and constantly on the go, so she just pulls whatever she finds in her closet, hurriedly throws a brush through her hair and goes. Which is fine at times, but that is her everyday routine. She is however very good about basic cleanliness - showering, brushing teeth, deodorant, etc.

When we have any kind of event or outing that requires more grooming, she is reluctant to change the way she dresses, and then relies on me to pick out her outfit, fix her hair, etc. Lately, as she is getting older, I am trying to help her understand that as she transitions into college, internships and work, she will need to put so more effort into her appearance on some days. I don't expect her to wear make-up or take an hour to fix her hair, but just want her to understand that she needs to think about if the clothes match and are appropriate for where she is going and that her hair needs to look minimally groomed. She has long, semi-wavy, thick hair which is very beautiful, but unfortunately requires a little effort to tame.

She is a very naturally beautiful girl. I love her the way she is, but now that she is an adult, running out of the house every day in sweats with a half-up ponytail, sometimes with food on her shirt from breakfast, could impact her ability to get or stay in jobs, etc. It usually results in an argument if I bring this up. Any suggestions as to how to make things easier for her as far as fixing her hair and helping her understand that I am not being critical, I am just trying to teach her about social norms that she is not picking up on herself. [/quote]

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