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[quote=Anonymous]She is 88 but in relatively good physical health for her age and quite mobile. We have to save money for when she needs comprehensive care which I suspect will happen at some point. The only outsourcing I have done regularly is dog walks. and once month cleaning. She bulks at having strangers doing things for her or even being in her space
because she is extremely anxiety ridden and is worried they are going to hurt her, steal from her, etc. She is not diagnosed being paranoid or anything like that. She is very lucid for her age, just really wary of strangers and it makes her shake sometimes she gets so nervous. She refuses medication for this and the dr said leave her be, can’t force her and she is in charge of her mental facilities and that it’s not unusual for elderly people to have heightened stranger danger. But it leaves me in a place where it’s near impossible to have people help much. She has always been the nervous type but as she aged she is gotten so much worse.

I am married but my kids are in college. My husband helps but  he has to travel a lot for work. I have a sibling on the other side of the continent.

She is not mean at all. She is just clingy, anxious, incredibly needy, and I feel sorry for her. But it also means I really have nothing left for myself. I feel like I am just living my life to keep her alive and safe right now and it’s not a good feeling. 
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