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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of you would likely benefit tremendously if you acted more like your parents.  [/quote]

x1000  Pay attention, OP![/quote]
Pay attention to what? Being suffocated by entitlement? It’s never enough for parents like this. Never! And they are so grieved. Why would anyone ever aspire to emulate that sort of behavior? What am I missing?[/quote]

Well, if you don't see it, then you don't see it.  They are part of your community.  Why are you threatened by that?

I don't think most of us feel that the participation by our parents or elders in our kids' events is suffocating.  We welcome all of them in our household because we realize that our kids can never have too many people love them.  Our parents and extended family attend pretty much every recital, game, activity that our kids are in.  They are at our house 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes planned and sometimes just popping in because they "were in the neighborhood."

And what I'm describing is pretty much the norm for our social group.  Practically everyone we know has parents or elder relatives in the general area, and we all have the same family dynamics.  I think nothing about arriving at a kid's game, scanning the bleachers, see some kid's grandpa or grandma and going over to sit by them.  The same with arriving at our club and scanning the family room or the dining room, and seeing someone's aunt or uncle or whomever.

Frankly, your resistance and umbrage say more negative about you than what you're trying to say about your parents.  You may want to think about why you feel being part of a tribe is stifling to you.  Why do you feel you have to operate in a silo instead of as part of a community?  Why is your ego so sensitive that you can't allow your parents to see your kids?[/quote]

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