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[quote=Anonymous]Or are we destined to become them one day?

Someone in the thread about the MIL visiting the grandkids posted about the “Respect Your Elders” treatment. It got me thinking about OUR parents, this generation of grandparents.

They want SO. MUCH. And they want you to fascinate it all!

I was very close with my grandparents, who were of a different generation and born in the 30s. They enjoyed having family over, but more to sit and kibitz with THEIR adult children than to monopolize US kids. They wouldn’t have dreamed of going trick or treating with us, wouldn’t have even thought of attending a random sports game or generic school performance, and didn’t really take us anywhere. But I have FOND memories of just being around them at their home. It was simple. It was perfect.

Now my parents and ILs want to DO everything and be included in all the things to the point of suffocation. And feel slighted if left out of the most insignificant event.

Are we destined to follow in their footprints, or will we be different because we know the example of BOTH types of grandparents? Will we be more chill and relaxed? My DH thinks so. I think so. So how do we not fall into the trap of becoming our parents?[/quote]

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