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[quote=Anonymous]I would start by asking myself why it is important to me that people follow through on the stuff they tell me about, especially if it has no impact on me one way or another.

I can't think of someone I know just like this, but I can think of dozens and dozens of situations where a friend or family member told me they were thinking about or planning something and nothing came of it. This happens constantly. "Oh we're thinking about moving to the suburbs." A year later I ask "Oh, did anything come of that?" And they say "No, we changed our minds." It doesn't matter to me, it's their life. Maybe I ask them what made them change their mind or we have a conversation about what it turns out they like about their current neighborhood.

I get that this relative has more fanciful dreams than that, but honestly that sounds interesting to me. I could have a whole conversation with someone about why they are interested in moving to Puerto Rico or whether they've always dreamed of living in a tropical location. And then they could not move there but I would still find that conversation interesting and enjoyable.

What others do with their lives is up to them. If they want to make a bunch of plans and never follow through on them, that's honestly perfectly fine because it's their life not yours. There's any number of reasons a person might momentarily think about doing something and then decide against it.[/quote]

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