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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are your kids?
What exactly are they saying and how often?
How far away are your parents?[/quote]

This.  And the answers to these questions might impact what the kids really want: grandparents watching them open gifts vs time spent with the grandparents that doesn’t have to include your involvement.  
I really like the idea of visiting the grandparents — so that you can “run errands” while the kids enjoy being with their grandparents.  Without more information though, I don’t know if it’s feasible to leave young kids alone with their grandparents; if the distance is such that you’ll need a hotel, etc. This could be a good time too, to think about what traditions you’d like to start. Maybe Christmas Eve could include the grandparents for a traditional dinner and opening family gifts, or Christmas can include a breakfast brunch, followed by a church service.  The activities don’t matter. What matters is that they are enjoyable traditions that also have a natural end point — so that your time interacting with your dad is limited. The older the kids are — the easier it will be for you to step back from interacting with your dad.

In your place, I would call your dad out publicly if he actively, publicly mistreats you. It would be empowering for you and excellent and maybe even essential modeling for your kids. 
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