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[quote=Anonymous]I live close to my mother and it has been a living hell dealing with her decline and her lashing out at me. Distance may be a good thing if your mom ends up with angry and aggressive dementia. Hire a good geriatric social worker or case manager who can visit, assess her needs and recommend what services are needed. Make it clear you cannot fill in if people don't show.

There are services that will manage bills for a fee of course.

If your mom is the type to lash out, guilt trip, and/manipulate I would suggest getting a therapist as well to help you stand by your boundaries. You have to put your health, your kids and your spouse before her and that is very hard to do.

Also, not surprised she seems almost normal when she visits. My mom was a raging beast to me and confused and addled, but could turn it on when my brother and sister who lived out of town visited. I think contrary to what people say, there is an early stage where they can still use every brain cell to act like they are fine. My friend had this every time she had someone evaluate her mom. Her mom would literally fall apart and be a mess the second the evaluation was over and the clinician was gone.[/quote]

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