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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't have another kid for your kid.  Have one because you want one.  Adults who were only children and adult who have siblings can all turn out to be functioning members of society.  The are benefits and downsides to both.  That's just life.  And don't make your child your everything - you deserve a life too.  [/quote]

Yes, this.  You can't guarantee that your only will be happy to have been an only or that siblings will be happy you gave them siblings.  Depends on the kids and a bit on whether *you* the parent are happy with your family (I think kids are likier to be happy if the parents are happy).  I am very close with both my sisters and adore them and love having sisters.  One of my friends has little relationship with her brother and is realistically looking at potentially having to support him some day.  Another one of my friends is an only who struggles with the idea of supporting both her parents in old age and being the sole focus of their ambitions for grandchildren.  Another friend is an only who really appreciates the close relationship she had with her parents and other adults growing up.  And this is a subset of people with good, loving parents who we love in return.  If you're revelling in your family as is, OP, I would say don't mess with a good thing.  I have two and no regrets but the shift from 1 to 2 was very hard on me.[/quote]

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