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[quote=Anonymous]I hear you, OP. I went (and still go) through the same, and (un)luckily I have siblings who can relate so we've been each other support system. It's difficult to discuss this upbringing with others because it's painful and they wouldn't understand. Take PP, for instance -- screaming, hollering, yelling barely scratch the surface of this type of abuse. I do have 2 close friends who can relate to my situation, and we can talk about this stuff for hours on end.

I'm also very low, but not no, contact, and also indirectly blame myself (i.e., do a bunch of mental gymnastics to justify my father's behavior, and in ways attribute it to his unsubstantiated/outdated view of me - but then it also leads to lots of self-questioning/self-doubt, blah blah) despite knowing that I shouldn't.

When friends ask why I don't visit my hometown where my verbally and emotionally (and once, physically) abusive father still lives, I just respond, with a heavy sigh, "long story..." Holidays are indeed painful knowing my father is all alone, again. But we've told him this is how it'd end up if he continued with this behavior, so he should understand the consequences...right?

Unfortunately I find some of my father's abusive tactics engrained in me and do my best to not let those demons get out. But even if I don't repeat the same words, I sometimes feel myself thinking those words. It's a bit scary/worrisome. Trying really hard to break the cycle![/quote]

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