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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Overnight is something that is out of her control. She should not be in underwear if she can't be successful at it. This may take a couple of years. [/quote]

I don't know if this is always the case. That's the current thinking but I've only started hearing about separate daytime and nighttime training pretty recently, and have seen siblings, cousins, and my own kids do the training all at once, day and night. It might be that the pull-up makes them comfortable peeing at night, even subconsciously? I am not an expert, but if this wasn't a thing a generation before that might not be necessarily true for all kids. it might also be different for boys than for girls, since when I've read bed-wetting at later ages is more of a boys' than a girls' issue. I only have girls and siblings/cousins were all boys. I'm not sure.
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NP. Yes it’s always the case. The stuff people do to “night train” kids involves literally waking them up to pee at like 11pm so that they don’t pee in their beds while asleep, or just dealing with bed wetting for as long as it takes. Since it can vary by kid, it might take 6 months or a year or 3 years, since the key factor is a hormone change that enables their bodies to wake them up to pee. People think it was their “training” but it wasn’t. It just seems that way if the shift occurs earlier.

I am female and I wet the bed well into elementary school. And then one day stopped. My parents were exasperated but there was nothing to “learn”. With my DD, we just left her in diapers at night and then in kindergarten they were always dry so we got rid of them. No training.[/quote]

If it was the case for you doesn't mean that it's always the case, and statistically it seems boys have more bedwetting problems than girls on average into older ages, which doesn't diminish your experience.

As it is, looks like the truth is in the middle, and based on these two links there is something like a coin-flip chance of night training earlier rather than assuming it's impossible.

First link cites stats claiming 60% or so of kids can hold it by age 3, and second link suggests ways to know when you're likely to be successful and does claim that kids get comfortable with the pull-up if you miss a certain window, and points out (correctly, IMO) that prior generations didn't make this distinction.

Neither link is necessarily gospel truth but there is more nuance to the "no it's impossible, separate night and day training, don't even try them together" view.

https://alphamom.com/parenting/nighttime-potty-training-vs-daytime-potty-training/

https://www.ohcrappottytrainingmetoyou.com/post/how-to-know-when-to-drop-the-night-diapers
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The point is that it is not possible for a child to avoid bedwetting until physiological changes make it possible. For some kids that could happen by 3, but for others it can be later. You can't know which your kid is, and if you push it and it turns out they are not ready, you could make things pretty miserable for both your kid and yourself.

You will be successful at avoiding bedwetting when your child consistently goes through the night with a dry diaper. This is the only sign of readiness, and when it happens you don't have to train your child to do anything. You just stop putting them in a diaper.

If your kid is consistently waking up with a wet diaper, you can of course drive yourself and your child crazy trying to night train them using methods that disrupt their sleep. I just don't really understand what the purpose of this would be.[/quote]

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