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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seems like you see a problem where one does not exist.

You fail to recognize the kindness and generosity of your relatives.[/quote]

Kindness is listening to what would be helpful to someone else. Kindness is respecting someone else’s decision. Generosity is helping after you have first listened to and respected what someone else has said about what would be helpful to them. [/quote]

Sure. But you fail to understand that this is a two way street. Your understanding/definition of kindness and generosity is too limited. Nonetheless, I do appreciate your comments.[/quote]

OP here. I do of course say thank you all the time, invite them frequently, say yes to their invitations and to their requests to visit and FT, etc. I accommodate their food preferences, travel preferences, vacation preferences, etc., etc. When I am in their home, I ask how I can help and I listen and do what they ask of me without questioning them or pushing my own agenda. I write thank you notes and encourage my kids to do the same. I call often and encourage my husband to call his parents.

I would just like to be respected in my own home. If they prefer not to help, that would be fine, too. They can relax, which would be more helpful than “help.” [/quote]

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