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[quote=Anonymous]I am struggling with dealing with my adult son’s success versus his friends/past friends.

My son is 28, and I love him. He is smart, hard working, has always been a good kid. But he is inarguably an underachiever.

I hate to say it, but he has a college degree, has gone to great schools from middle school onwards, but he is currently working at a pretty dead end, mostly call center job with relatively low pay years from college.

I feel like he is at the point where most of his friends are moving up, making big changes, pushing for more while he is treading water. He seems happy, but honestly it just hurts me seeing him coasting while so many of his friends are doing so well.

For an example, his best friend moved across the country for a dream job around a year ago, is making considerably more, just bought a brand new car, and is just thriving. They have plans to hang out in a few months during a conference the friend is going to for work. This friend of his went to the same schools and graduated with the same degree the same year, and he has mentioned he feels mixed feelings about this situation.

I don’t know what to say. It is hard, because I love my son, and think he can be great, but the cards simply haven’t fallen his way and I know it hurts him. He is barely scraping by while so many of his friends are out there thriving while he is treading water. But I have no idea what advice to give him. He is looking for better jobs, but it’s been painful and a lot of rejection, and I want to give him space.[/quote]

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