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[quote=Anonymous]My daughters were 3 and 7 when we separated and ex husband moved out. They are 7 and 11 now. It's been ok. There was a period of time where I stayed in the house, and ex moved into a shitty apartment. I know he drank a lot on his own time (always a sticking point in our marriage). Within a year of separation, we finalized the divorce, sold the house, and both moved 30 minutes closer to work. We each own our own small houses one mile apart. He took a job that involved a ton of travel, I have been the main parent for years. We coparent amicably for the most part. He just moved into his girlfriend's house (farther away). He also introduced her into the kids lives after dating only 4 months. She's nice, but knowing his track record with women, I'm unhappy that he has moved the kids in there. I don't want them to go through a breakup. It wouldn't matter so much, except he has moved them into her house and placed her in a stepmom role. They consider my house "home" and seem relieved to be back with me on my custody days. Our house is totally a girl house. They always have friends over, we have movie nights, our weekends are relaxing and walking the dog to get donuts, going to the park, etc. I work like a dog when they arent with me, so that when I have them, we have quality time together. I have a boyfriend, but I date on my own time and keep that completely away from the kids. I'm not ready to add any complications to their lives. We are trying to make it feel more stable for them by doing 2 nights with me, 2 with dad, and then each parent gets Fri, Sat, Sun every other week. So the kids get a 5.day block with one parent. I hope this makes them feel less transient. Of course, he's out of town again, so I have them until he graces us with his presence. I have done my best to make their life normal and stable when they are with me. I never wanted to put them through a divorce, and it was really heartbreaking for all of us.  I'd prefer to have an intact family, but that wasn't possible, so we have made the best of it. [/quote]

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