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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) You should always graciously accept a gift, unless it’s wildly inappropriate.

2) Once it’s yours, you don’t have to keep it.

3) You do not need to reciprocate gifts.

4) You may decide to keep/display gifts and/or reciprocate even if you don’t want to because you think it will strengthen the relationship.

I mostly hate gifts too. It’s just something you have to deal with. [/quote]

This.[/quote]

Perhaps in the 1950s this was the case. It's not a gift if you already said no gifts.You don't have to accept it. Gifts for centuries have been used to manipulate people and to give passive aggressive swipes at people. Wealthy world leaders try to win eachother's favor with gifts. MILs might give their DIL a vacuum to say once again "your house is a mess" and she was supposed to smile and say thank you. Now we can simply smile and say "no thank you." That is allowed. We women are allowed to say "no thank you." Whenver you find yourself saying "always" take pause or throwing around "the shoulds".Women have driven themselves insane with the shoulds.

I don't want to find a place to donate this. I don't want more junk in my home. If I like or love you it has nothing to do with things. Your being is a gift. If I don't like you, a gift will not help that. If you like or love me, you will respect my boundary. If you don't respect my boundary I will say again "no thank you."[/quote]

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