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[quote=Anonymous]Very, very different circumstances but I used to get irritated by my in-town SIL.  Like you, I knew deep down that I was perhaps being irrational. None of my SILs actions were mean spirited, but she was flaky and would do (or, more likely, NOT DO) or say things that tweaked me. It took me a while, but finally I had to realize that she was just unhappy and it had absolutely nothing to do with me. Thankfully, she is doing really great now and I think that has made a difference in her follow through. Just remind yourself that it has nothing to do with you -- but you also dont have to respond to sappy text messages unless they are directly asking you a question. I'd also take more "breaks" while you move through it. If your DH wants to bring your child over to their house, use the opportunity to make plans with an old friend. Don't completely avoid, but I think it is fine to skip a few gatherings if you're seeing them several times a month.

I am not a therapist but it sounds like your MIL might be a little lost. She is romanticizing the times when your DH was a child and maybe she's envious that you're getting to enjoy that time now. She may be someone who needs to be "needed" in the way a little kid needs their parents. [/quote]

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