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[quote=Anonymous]One thing to be aware of - all births are different and they may hit YOU differently. I was mentally great after my first was born. After my second, I had a TERRIBLE case of PPD. I feel like with my first, I was very aware of that possibility, but having given birth once before without a problem, I didn’t even consider that it would happen to me the second time.

I would plan for extra help. You can always cancel if things feel manageable, but trying to figure out how you would even find a night nanny when you haven’t slept in weeks is very daunting. Either prepare for or be open to the fact that you may need more help this time.

As soon as is feasible, both you and your spouse need to take both kids for long stretches when they’re both awake. It feels SO daunting at first, but you can figure it out, and that is the path to getting rest. It’ll feel like the hardest thing in the world at first, but you’ll get better at it with practice, and you need the breaks that gets you for your own sanity. For us, that was as soon as the baby was sleep trained at 4 months (as we never did figure out how to rock a baby to sleep while watching a toddler.) Before that, the most we could manage was 30 or 45 mins at a time. After that, we each started taking both kids for a big chunk of the weekend (a 4-5 hour stretch) so the other person could get some actual downtime. That was so clutch.

Good luck and congrats!

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