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[quote=Anonymous]Dh and I have two kids ages 4 and 2. We live 15 minutes from DH's parents and see them all the time.

Dh's brother and his wife and their two kids ages 5 and 3 live 6 hours away. They have a small 3bd house in the countryside ~40 minutes from the nearest town. Every time we make plans to go visit BIL and SIL, Dh's parents drop everything and come at the same time. I fully understand wanting to be with all their grandchildren and we do that multiple times per year already, but it makes everything so much more hectic having them come. They take up a bedroom and then expect that my family sleeps in the freezing cold unfinished basement. Literally- their house is heated by a wood pellet stove on the first floor that doesn't really get heat to the basement. It's usually around 50 degrees down there and there's concrete floor. Our 2yo goes in the pack n play, DH and I get a double air mattress and 4yo gets a single air mattress. There's very steep stairs and no bathroom down there so we're up helping the kids pee, getting them extra blankets, etc. Obviously, I understand that the in laws deserve the bedroom, but it would just be so nice to get a chance to make the 6 hour drive and then actually be able to sleep. There's no Airbnb or hotel around. Further, SIL and I are very close. If we try to sneak away and get our nails done or grab a coffee, MIL will be like "ok let me grab my coat!". In laws have also both had double knee replacements recently so we can never go do the things the kids want to do- hike, children's museum, corn maze etc. MIL and FIL also have a few drinks and spew their political beliefs and it's just so exhausting.

We tried planning to visit BIL while my in laws were set to be in Mexico and they changed the dates of their trip to come with us. I know if we tell them that we want to go alone, it will start a huge mess. DH and I love BIL and SIL so much and are just sad we never get quality time to hang with them!
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