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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not about the knives OP. The first step is realizing this and prioritizing your life.  Knives should be way way down on your list.[/quote]

This, above, OP.

This isn't about the knives. You mention other things your mom got rid of that you cannot replace. You're grieving losing those things but are turning it into a fixation on the one item you believe can be replaced -- the knife set. You really want back everything they so coolly gave away but since you can't get the more sentimental or emotionally important things back, you're focused on the knives instead. Does that sound right?

There surely are other resentments you're harboring that go way beyond your stuff. How else has your mom shown disrespect for your stuff or for you over the years? Why were you unable, over an entire decade, to bring this up openly and frankly with your mom and tell her how much it still hurts and angers you that she gave things (not the knives, OP, other things) away like that? Why in 10 years have you not addressed the bigger picture but have let this fester and seethe? Please get an objective third party -- yes, a counselor or therapist -- to help you see what the real issues are with you and your mom (and maybe your sister as well) so you can surface those issues, not the non-issue of this one specific item.

You do realize, I hope, that you have basically given 10 years of your life to this one rankling wound? Ultimately you do have to let it go, but since it sounds like it's a symptom of a much larger issue that needs addressing or it will only keep eating you even if you get the $400, even if you get fantastic new knives. Getting new knives is not really going to resolve whatever's behind this. You...do see that, right? [/quote]

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