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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you for these helpful and supportive response, from OP. We did insist on a second visit, and our DC had lunch with a current student. This visit is what solidified for DC that they want to apply to said college ED. Also like a PP, we committed to DC early in the college search process that the final choice is theirs so I do not want to renege on that now (I assumed DC’s thoughts would be more aligned with ours, haha, I should have known better). I think I have to make peace with the fact that ultimately I have to let DC take ownership of this choice, and let the chips fall where they do, otherwise there will be a lot of blame and resentment towards me from DC in the future, especially since there is no guaranty they would love the colleges I think are better fits. It is very hard when you spend 18 years trying to support and help your children so they have as many open doors as possible, and then you see them making an important decision that you feel could be limiting.

To clarify based on a different pp’s response, in no way do I think student at this college are any “less” as humans - in fact I agree with DC that everyone we met seemed really friendly and nice, and there are smart and hardworking students everywhere. But the same way we always encouraged DC to take AP classes and the most rigorous math track, there is a benefit to being with a peer group that matches your intellect and curiosity. And at a college that has top professors and more robust department offerings. It’s not an exact science but you can discern some of this from the data that the colleges themselves publish. [/quote]

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