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[quote=Anonymous]My mom has always been a control freak who has to micromanage everything, including relationships between relatives. Recently, she’s had a lot of age-related physical and cognitive issues so I had to assist her in dealing with logistics when a relative passed away. In talking with other relatives, I learned that people have tried to reach me for close to 30 years, but my mother wouldn’t give them my contact info. She always put across to me that they were disinterested in us when I asked for contact info for wedding invitations, birth announcements, or Christmas cards. I am bewildered and hurting tonight. Family is everything to me. I lost most of these relatives as a young teen when my family moved. Hearing people cry with joy on the phone that we are reunited is amazing, but I can’t believe my mom did this to me. And she’s not well enough for me to confront her. Plus, a couple people have already asked why my mom kept barriers between us. She stayed in contact with these relatives for three decades, but made me think they didn’t want anything to do with me. I didn’t even reach out to them on social media because she made me think they had rejected us when I was a teen. WWYD? Confront your mom? Tell people the truth? Ask them to just let it go and we all move forward? My head is spinning.[/quote]

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