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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kids don't really start making close friends until end of 2nd/3rd grade. Before then they just sort of play with whomever is into whatever they are into that day. And they don't remember any of it. Totally normal![/quote]

I disagree. While it's normal for kids in kindergarten to play with alot of different kids they can form stronger friendships with certain kids. My DS3 is very close with one boy in his class. He looks for him everyday and even the teacher commented that they have a genuine friendship where.they play together all day making up imaginative situations.

My DD6 is the same. She plays with alot of different kids but there are specific kids where it goes beyond that. Especially neighborhood friends that she regularly plays with every weekend.

That being said just ask the teacher. It's still early in the year and she may just be adjusting to a full day of school. By the end of the day many kids will be exhausted and not want to socialize on the bus. 
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+1. Not my experience with either kid. 8 year old DS has had the same best friend since he was 2. Teachers call them "the twins." He is very social and has a larger group of 7 or 8 other friends that has fluctuated a bit over the years, but the core 3 or 4 names have always been the same since kindergarten. Of course, a significant part of that may be the timing with the pandemic - he was in kindergarten when school closed in March 2020, and first grade was all virtual, and the school kept a really large cohort together from that first grade class when they went into second grade and then again now in third grade.

My kindergartener has also had the same best friend since she was 2, but unlike DS, her best friend is now at a different elementary school. And DD is shy and much more introverted; she loves to play with friends but only one or two, not a pack like DS plays with. She is struggling much like OP describes. She plays with the two or three kids she knows from preschool, none of whom she played with much when they were together in preschool. One of them is more of a "frenemy" and a lot of what she recounts is tales of conflict between them, which I find upsetting. I've pushed her to try to play with some other girls too and she mentions the names of other girls (there are 30 kids in her class and probably half are girls, so lots to choose from) but says she isn't friends with any. She says she plays alone at recess, but she enjoys that much of the time so I'm not too worried about recess. I would like to facilitate closer friendships though. Hoping maybe later in the fall to pick out a parent or two to reach out to for a playdate. Overall she doesn't seem unhappy. [/quote]

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