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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Volunteer for PTA or your local community association. Or anything that is important to you. The thing is, if you invite people over, you have to make the conversation. If you are part of a group who is planning something (fundraiser, event, membership drive, whatever), you automatically have something to talk about. I have made a lot of my best friends through PTA and not necessarily with people who have kids the same age or whose kids are friends with mine.

I've also found that initiating and just making a plan is half the battle. If you build it, they will come. I have found that very few people are planners but those who take the time to make a plan and facilitate getting people there will have more active social lives. In my group, that person is usually me and as much as that frustrates me, at least people will come if I ask. And it doesn't have to be fancy--a simple group text saying, "hey, was thinking of grabbing a coffee at xxx during practice if anyone wants to join me" will usually do the trick. [/quote]

This is OP, I want to volunteer at my kids' school PTA but isn't it time consuming?  with kids sports I already feel like I have no time to even cook dinner LOL, I don't know how y'all other moms swing it.

I think you are right about initiating, that makes sense, I need to step out of my comfort zone I guess, this feels way worse than dating, I am already worried about being rejected...at least in dating if it doesn't work out you just stop seeing that person, but if I invite soccer moms over and can't make everyone have a good time, no one would come next time, and I still have to see them frequently.  So much pressure!![/quote]

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