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[quote=Anonymous]I am an introvert, I like being alone, social events makes me tired.  However, recently I start to feel more and more lonely, I relocated and now have no friend nearby.  I want to make more friends but don’t know how to.  I seriously have no idea how to start.  Looking back, all the friends I had/have are extroverts who would force me to go out with them, their enthusiasm made me want to go out and have fun.  I also have a close friend who I started off not liking but a mutual extrovert friend made us hangout together and then a close friendship developed over time.

I am a married working mom in my late 30s, how can I meet new friends?  Not acquaintances but true friends.  I feel like everyone is nice, like all the moms at the kids’ bus stop and all the new neighbors, but our interactions are limited to small talks, how do you take it to the next level?  I admit I am clueless, and I am quite frustrated.  I feel like moms at this age already have their established friend circles, why would they want to invite me in?  Especially when I am such an introvert?

I met some moms on my kids’ sport teams, we have a good time hanging out at the games and practices, we help each out on picking up/drop off, that kind of stuff, I genuinely like those people and want to be friends with them, but I don’t know how to initiate things.  I know this sound silly but like I said, so far, all my friends are extreme extroverts so I never had to initiate a friendship, ugh, it just feels unnatural to me (I know it’s may sound weird).

I know I can always invite people over to the house to have wine or tea or dinner, but how does it work from there?  I can only foresee lots of more small talks, how do you get over that stage?

Maybe my fellow introverts can chime in and share some insights?  And extroverts could you please “teach” me how to be more social?  I appreciate it![/quote]

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