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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am reading these abortion thread in tears.  (Blame the 12 week hormones.)  I cannot believe the number of women who are [b]caviler about aborting a baby[/b] with downs, spina bifida, etc.   My sister (in another part of the country) has an amazing little girl with spina bifida.  This little girl is so smart (top reading group!), gorgeous, and has lots of friends.  She is a speed demon in her wheelchair and will probably be doing backflips in her wheelchair soon.  This is a kid that the doctors encouraged them to abort because of the "low quality of life"!!!  There have been some challenging times for the family - 5 significant surgeries, 4 of which I flew out to be there for my sister.  BUT, its not nearly as bad as people from the outside might think or imagine.   My niece is just like any other 1st grade girl - she just so happens to need a wheelchair to play and has some (manageable!) extra medical needs.   We are not a religious family, but I am so proud and grateful that my sister choose life for my niece!!!

My sister recently linked on FB to this blog of another SB family.  It has stuck with me, esp this part:

"We have such a double standard going. We pat our kids on the head and tell them that they should be nice to the little kid in the wheelchair. Don't stare at the little girl bouncing on her toes trying to fly. Don't point at the little boy who looks a little different. Be nice. Be friendly.[b] Just don't you dare be my child.[/b]

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If you ever find yourself in that position of discovering that your child is not going to be who you thought: relax. It's not going to      be that bad. You are strong enough, you are amazing enough, you will do just fine. There's no need to panic. Remember that people with disabilities are people. They love, they laugh, they play, they communicate, they live. If you can get over yourself, you will do just fine."

http://thelittlekingsley.blogspot.com/2012/03/its-not-that-bad.html

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Wow, just wow. I have never once, NOT ONE TIME, read a thread on DCUM wherein a woman was cavalier about aborting a child, period. [b]You are a horrible human being to characterize it this way. And I question your motives and also your emotional maturity.[/b]

On the contrary, the women on threads who speak about aborting a child with a mortal condition speak eloquently about their grief at losing a very wanted child.

You need to get over yourself and think outside your personal experiences and realize that not every baby has a [i]manageable[/i] health condition, and that some families with different circumstances need to make different choices.[/quote]

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